Wednesday, November 17, 2010

Pie and Paperwork

It it hard to believe that Thanksgiving is only a week from tomorrow.  I'm so excited to eat turkey and pecan pie and cranberry sauce, not to mention have a couple days off of work, which has been kind of crazy lately.  I like big Thanksgiving dinners with lots of people around for a lot of reasons, but one stands above the rest:  the more people involved in the dinner, the more varieties of pie I can justify.  Because  I love baking pies.  And I love having slivers of pretty much every option of pie available, even if it is not my "favorite" kind of pie.  My favorite pies to bake are apple and pecan. 

When Paul and I were dating I tried to impress him by making a banana cream pie (his favorite).  Only we were in that super early stage of twitterpation and he kept distracting me while I was adding ingredients.  Somehow I forgot to thicken the custard before I put it into the pie crust and we ended up with banana cream soup.  It was so embarassing and hilarious at the same time that I had made a total fool of myself while trying to show off for my boyfriend.

I really didn't intend to blog about pie when I started this post - I meant to provide an update on the adoption process.  We have both had our interviews now, and last Friday we had our home-study.  There wasn't really much to the home-study, which was sort of a let-down.  Our caseworker came to our house and we sat at the kitchen table while she asked us questions like "Do you leave knives on the floor?" or "Are there sinkholes in your backyard?"  I thought she would actually want to see our (required) fire extinguisher and first aid kit, and that she would check to make sure we had moved all the chemicals from under the kitchen sink to a high shelf in the garage, but she just wanted us to confirm that we had taken care of those things.  Then we walked her through our house (which takes a whopping 14 seconds to see every room).  The only rooms she really cared about were the baby's room and its proximity to our room.  After that she left. 

Then on Saturday Paul and I spent five hours getting adult, child, and infant CPR and First Aid certified.  It was hilarious and intersting at first, but by the end I was dying to be done with that class.  But now I can remind Paul that I am able to save his life, which is kind of cool.  I think being able to perform CPR is kind of like having a super power.

We both have our fingerprints being processed through the State (both California and Utah), the Department of Justice, and the FBI.  We both had to wait at the DMV to get copies of our driving records. 

And we filled out our "child preference" information, which was possibly the most scary, confusing part of the process so far.  It starts off by asking whether we prefer a boy or a girl or have no preference, and whether we have racial preferences.  The racial preference portion was interesting because races were listed with boxes next to them to choose "Full", "Half", or "None" of each particular race.  Then the questions went into more difficult things like whether we would accept a baby who has potentially been exposed to sexually transmitted diseases, alcohol, drugs, or abuse.  Then the questionnaire lists illness and birth defects, one right after another in a seemingly endless list of horribles, and asks whether we would accept a child with (or at risk for) things like Type I or Type II diabetes, bipolar disorder, cancer, muscular dystophy, Huntington's Disease, etc.  I felt like I was scrolling down that page forever and let me tell you, it was a sobering experience.  I had to use webMD and wikipedia to look up a lot of the diseases or mental disorders that were listed that I didn't know much about.  Not only did we have to answer for whether our child would have or would be at risk for these things, but also whether we were okay with either of the birth parents having any of these conditions.

Then we had to fill out a bunch of stuff about ourselves to help potential birth parents get to know us better.  Really it was just like being "Tagged" which was a blogging thing that went around a couple of years ago.  Here are the questions with each of our answers:

A book I highly recommend is:
P:  The Book Thief by Mark Zusak
A:  The Hunger Games by Suzanne Collins

My favorite flower is:
P:  Tulip
A:  Callalily
A game I like to play is:
P:  Phase 10
A:  Mastermind

The music I listen to most is:
P:  Classic rock
A:  Classical or Top 40

My favorite band is:
P:  The Police
A:  U2
A movie I watch over and over is:
P:  Rustler's Rhapsody (a cowboy comedy)
A:  Elf

A T.V. show I watch regularly is:
P:  The Office
A:  Survivor

My favorite quote is:
P:  Do or do not. There is no try. - Yoda
A:  Be who you are and say what you feel, because those who mind don't matter, and those who matter don't mind. - Dr. Seuss

My favorite thing to buy is:
P:  Fly-fishing gear
A:  Cardigans - I just can't resist and I wear them all the time!

I drive a:
P:  '96 Toyota Tacoma
A:  Gunmetal grey Honda Civic

I love to collect:
P:  Souvenirs from places we visit
A:  Passport stamps

If I could afford anything at this moment I would buy:
P:  A 1965 blue Shelby Cobra
A:  An amazing trip to either India/Nepal or the Galapagos Islands

If my house was burning down and I could only rescue three things, they would be:
P:  Assuming my family was already safe, I would rescue my camera, my laptop and photos from our wedding.
A:  (Assuming my family was out safe already) my computer, my scrapbooks, and our camera (so I could photograph the event and blog about it)

A smell that makes me pause is:
P:  Chocolate
A:  Cinnamon and tree bark

My favorite sport to watch is:
P:  Football
A:  Gymnastics

The city I would most like to visit is:
P:  Paris - even though I have already been there.
A:  Tokyo

My favorite restaurant is:
P:  Bombay House
A:  Bombay House

A moment when I achieved absolute happiness was:
P:  When I married Amy.
A:  Graduating from Law School.

My favorite meal is:
P:  Steak fajitas
A:  Homemade chimichangas

Someone or something that made me laugh this week was:
P:  Dwight Schrute on The Office
A:  Photos of my niece in a hilarious Halloween costume

My earliest memory is:
P:  Lying in my bed in the early morning and hearing my mom blow-drying her hair.
A:  Being upset that my mom was only giving me half a graham cracker instead of the whole graham cracker. This story is famous in my family and has been told so many times that I may not actually remember it even if I feel like I do.

My first paying job was:
P:  Working in the warehouse of my dad's computer company.
A:  Other than babysitting, I was a server at a Mexican restaurant in high school.

The memory that still makes me laugh is:
P:  It's not a memory really, but it is hilarious to turn off all the lights in the house at night and try to scare Amy.
A:  When I was training for a marathon and Paul decided to go running with me while he was wearing flip-flops. For some reason that made me mad, and I hollered at him "You're not cute, you're not funny, and I'm mad at you!" Then we both started cracking up.

My best birthday was:
P:  In Capri, Italy when I turned 27.
A:  Probably when I turned 21. I was so excited to go on a mission and it was just a big point in my life.

A smell that reminds me of my childhood is:
P:  Raspberries
A:  Chocolate chip cookies coming out of the oven

The story behind my name is:
P:  I was named after one of my parent's good friends.
A:  My middle and last name were chosen first and were both really long so my parents wanted a short girl's name. My middle name (Elizabeth) comes from my great-grandma. My maiden name (Casebolt) means "bald head."

My favorite color to wear is:
P:  Blue
A:  Navy

My strangest possession is:
P:  A machete
A:  A Travelocity Roaming Gnome

My favorite dessert is:
P:  A dessert Amy makes with raspberries, jello, cream, and Nilla wafers. We just call it "raspberry dessert".
A:  Razzleberry pie a la mode

When I exercise, I like to:
P:  Play tennis
A:  Run or do yoga

My favorite thing to do on a date is:
P:  Go out to dinner at a nice restaurant.
A:  Get outside and be active - mini-golf, hiking, walks, biking - anything like that

The best vacation I ever had was:
P:  When we went to Machu Picchu in Peru.
A:  Either visiting ancient Mayan temples in Mexico with Paul and my sister, or visiting Machu Picchu in Peru.

The best thing about being married is:
P:  Getting to spend all my time with my best friend.
A:  Always having your best friend to do things with even if it is just to stay at home and watch t.v. and eat ice cream in pajamas.

The thing I am most passionate about is:
P:  Photography
A:  Travel - exploring new places and making everyday of life an adventure

In high school, I was:
P:  Kind of a dork. I played tennis, took AP classes, got my Eagle Scout, and took up surfing.
A:  Nerdy and super involved. I was on the dance team, show choir (just like Glee!), track, cross country, in school plays, and I had the worst hair imaginable.

Places I have lived include:
P:  California, Utah, Costa Rica, and Germany
A:  Nebraska, California, Utah, Idaho, Missouri, New Jersey, and Germany.

My favorite holiday is:
P:  Christmas
A:  Halloween

I play these instruments:
P:  Piano
A:  Piano and guitar

An important thing I learned from my parents is:
P:  To be honest.
A:  The value of education. My dad went back to college when I was in fourth grade and got his Master's degree in Business and my mom went back to college when I started high school and got her Master's degree in Education. It was a great example for me of how important education is.

Whew - that was really a marathon post.  Maybe I should have broken it into two posts.


  1. I love reading posts like this, where I get to learn fun tidbits about you guys. Your answers made me want to be friends with you and Paul.

  2. Whoa, those are some tough decisions to make. And I loved reading the answers to the questions.

  3. I am a pie lover too. I liked reading all of your blog "tag" answers. Funny some of the hoops they make you jump through for this stuff. My chemicals are all still under the kitchen sink! :)

  4. I love reading your answers! They are going to love you!

  5. HAHAHA! This answer made me laugh and laugh.

    "A moment when I achieved absolute happiness was:
    P: When I married Amy.
    A: Graduating from Law School."

    bahahahaha. Don't worry, Paul, I think she still loves you.

  6. I didn't know you were adopting. Congratulations!! That is so exciting!


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